Dear Feminist,

elizabethcadyrantin:

miss-education:

ginger-gal:

stfufauxminists:

shriekinprophet:

I apologize for attempting to help you get your message across clearly. Next time I will just sit back and watch you hurt your own reputation. How dare I get upset when a movement acts in a way that hurts itself? Shame on me. I am such a sexist for wanting to help.

Sincerely,

Guy just trying to help.

Oh god, this is exactly the wrong way to go about being a dude interested in feminism.

Feminist dudes, don’t ever do this, ok? This is a prime example of “I, the man, will save you from yourself now” coupled with a healthy dose of the tone argument, topped with the privilege-denying of not having to recognize the historical implications of this sentiment.

It’s gross, and it doesn’t help at all, no matter how much you might be trying. Seriously, if passive aggression is the best you have to offer, just stop trying.

Yeah, dude, we don’t want or need your “help”.

Dear guy who wants to help,

If you want to help, shut the fuck up.

Thanks,

Miss-education, a real feminist, both on the Internet and in real life.

Dear “Feminist” Dude,

  1. justlisten-m reblogged this from always-tete
  2. gelitripping reblogged this from postmodernismruinedme and added:
    Hahaha, oh my God.
  3. acid23 reblogged this from riotgrrrlberlin
  4. shriekinprophet reblogged this from absquesetentia and added:
    Except I never claimed to be a feminist……….
  5. absquesetentia reblogged this from bidyke and added:
    I had to reblog again for that image. So much win.
  6. themythsaredead reblogged this from anotherfeminist
  7. prerevolutionaryactivist reblogged this from whynotshesaid and added:
    “tone argument” named. See
  8. dianamcqueen reblogged this from postmodernismruinedme
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  13. bidyke reblogged this from absquesetentia
  14. bitchesandtheirprivilege reblogged this from stfufauxminists and added:
    Bitches with privilege: This is why we examine privilege, reread what we write, revise/change opinions based on facts...
  15. subtletysmyweakness reblogged this from stfufauxminists and added:
    LOLOLOLOL Your tone is disrespectful but it’s not about tone? Seriously, bro, COME ON with the contradictions and...
  16. principia-coh said: The Hugh Jackman “how the hell did I end up on a wrestling show” GIF is particularly amusing.
  17. ivydoor reblogged this from stfufauxminists
  18. gleeksfalllikedominoes reblogged this from fsufeminist
  19. lirulin reblogged this from stfufauxminists and added:
    lovely calling his ass...- too bad he still cannot grasp
  20. gingerdaydream reblogged this from stfufauxminists and added:
    always oppressive (sexist, racist, etc.)...is used against.
  21. wingsandtails reblogged this from stfufauxminists and added:
    In which shriekinprophet completely misses the point. You’re welcome in advance.
  22. camirebolledok reblogged this from whynotshesaid
  23. ginamak reblogged this from principia-coh
  24. neutered reblogged this from stfufauxminists and added:
    this is actually beautiful
  25. jadelyn reblogged this from stfufauxminists and added:
    Dear sir: I simply would like you to consider why it is you feel entitled to “a respectful tone” from people who are...
  26. digestivepyrotechnics reblogged this from fsufeminist
  27. always-tete reblogged this from stfufauxminists
  28. mayra-quijotesca reblogged this from nerdling and added:
    To the fauxpologist who thinks he knows everything about feminism,
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  31. nerdling reblogged this from elizabethcadyrantinisindisguise
  32. thefremen reblogged this from stfufauxminists and added:
    All I can muster up right now is: He isn’t the prophet, he’s a very naughty boy!
  33. ugobeast reblogged this from shriekinprophet and added:
    Dude, join us on earth. The problem here...that others wont listen
  34. lizziegoneastray reblogged this from lord-kitschener and added:
    lol way to tell marginalized people how to run their movement, bro obviously you know what’s best for us
  35. veganmudblood reblogged this from whynotshesaid
  36. whynotshesaid reblogged this from stfufauxminists and added:
    LMAO. “It’s not about tone…don’t come at me in a disrespectful tone!” Can’t even make this shit up.
  37. leorizanzel reblogged this from lord-kitschener
  38. properuseofprivilege reblogged this from stfufauxminists and added:
    DON’T DISRESPECT ME! I’M A MAN YOU CAN’T DO THAT! LET ME HELP YOU BECAUSE YOU NEED MY HELP! WAAAAAAAAAAAAAH!
  39. elizabethcadyrantinisindisguise reblogged this from xfafafabulous and added:
    Dear “Feminist” Dude,